Why I do what I do; The bare bones truth.
I am here to ask you to stick around long enough for me to earn your trust.
My name is Suzanne Jones – creator of SuzieQSolutions. Originally, I set out to help people live their best lives by increasing their levels of happiness through fulfilling their dreams – whatever those dreams may be. Done using proven processes, skills, and techniques personalized to each individual, this work required both inner transformations and outer momentum (a.k.a. work!).
It worked great and still does. In fact, with full participation, it works 100% of the time.
What I found was that the more people I helped and the breakthroughs I witnessed, something started stirring from my soul.
It was not immediately clear to me what that was so I remained open until one day when it hit me.
I am adopted. A great source of my own suffering is deeply rooted from having been removed from all I knew in utero. That loss equals trauma. Plain and simple.
As a young woman, I was walking through life with unhealed wounds that had yet to be addressed. The problem was that every so often, these wounds bubbled up to the surface and wreaked havoc on my life.
I dug into the research and that’s when I finally understood my mission. The Universe was conspiring on my behalf to show me where I was most needed. Everything I had experienced in my life to this point has prepared me to do this exact work.
It is what makes me the expert, the go to person, and the one who walks the walk – every single day.
A Little Back Story
To the world, my adoptive family seemed put together and happy, although happy is not a word I would use to describe my childhood.
In fact, at 15 years old, my adoptive family gave me back! I became a ward of the court and went to an assessment center. From there, I bounced from foster home to foster home until I found one I blended well with.
While there is a great deal of trauma I am leaving out, that about sums up my experiences. Because of these traumatic adventures, I learned early on how to construct and fortify a wall around my heart that let no one in. This ensured my safety. Until I woke up and realized that my protective wall had become my prison.
With that wall – and my intention to remain safe – came sarcasm, anger, judgment, rebellion and feeling sorry for myself.
In my attempts to protect myself as a result of my core wounding, I was punished instead of protected.
It was only through doing my own inner and outer work that I realized I had never fully grieved nor dealt with my suppressed pain related to my being adopted. Let alone the pain of being given back!
What kind of parent gives back their kid? A parent who is not emotionally or mentally prepared or stable enough to deal with the throes of the adoptee’s soul. A parent who hasn’t dealt with their own demons and projects them onto their vulnerable children.
And then I had my own kids. Though my old programming, I projected my wounds onto my own children.
Let me tell you something with 100% certainty. There is NO pain worse than the pain of shame and guilt. Seeing the pain in your children’s eyes, the same pain you have suffered, reflected back to you from the ones you love the most. Watching them grow and those pain ridden faces are etched in your mind. The heaviness on my heart was too much to bear at times and I swear, if it’s the last thing I ever do, it will be to help as many parents as I can to begin their journeys with a clean slate.
My Mission And Purpose
I’m on a mission to help people like you – adoptive parents – avoid the pitfalls and perils of raising an adopted child. This is work that makes my heart sing (and better it be my heart than my actual vocals!).
I do not blame my parents. They did not know better. Most people today don’t know better. I assume you do, because you’re still here.
If it weren’t for my experiences, I would not be as effective as I am in my work. This is what I was born to do.
Consider this your safe place to voice your concerns, be honest with yourself, set clear intentions while being guided step by step in creating the life you want – for you AND your child.
If you could go into parenting feeling confident and secure, never doubting yourself again, would you do that for your child?
What would it mean to you to be at the forefront of change in the adoption world?
Since you’re still here, maybe this is the Universe talking to you. Perhaps this is your sign.
Suzanne Jones is the founder of SuzieQSolutions, a one person pre adoption firm working with couples to create happy, healthy, whole adoptive families.
Suzanne is highly experienced and as an adoptee herself, she knows what it takes to raise a well-adjusted adopted child. She’s been trained in multiple modalities. She is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, a Neuro Linguistic Practitioner and a Certified Dream (Life) Coach®.